Aligned Networking

A letter on transcending the gross, transactional networking game

I used to think networking meant collecting business cards like Pokemon cards.

The more connections, the better. The bigger names, the more valuable.

The higher the follower count, the more worthy of pursuit.

Then I realized why my DMs felt like a graveyard of dead conversations and why my "network" never seemed to net anything but exhaustion.

I was playing a game designed for robots, not humans.

The Problem With Traditional Networking

Traditional networking operates on scarcity logic:

• Extract value before giving it

• Impress rather than express

• Connect with everyone, resonate with no one

• Measure success by quantity, not quality

It's the business equivalent of speed dating while wearing a mask and reading from a script.

No wonder most entrepreneurs feel drained by "networking events" and cringe at the thought of "reaching out." We've turned human connection into a transaction spreadsheet.

But what if networking could feel like breathing? Natural, necessary, and nourishing?

The Energetic Exchange Principle

Real networking isn't about what you can get. It's about what you can give—and more importantly, what naturally flows between aligned beings.

When I shifted from addiction to alignment, my entire network restructured itself. The drinking buddies faded. The consciousness explorers appeared. Not through force or strategy, but through frequency.

This taught me the first law of aligned networking: You don't find your tribe. You vibrate at your frequency, and your tribe finds you.

I've watched this principle help me connect with:

• Millionaire investors

• High-level entrepreneurs who became friends

• Creators like Dan Koe, Nik Huno, and Brian Maierhofer who became inspirations

• Clients who feel more like creative collaborators

None of these connections came from cold pitching or strategic schmoozing. They emerged from authentic expression and aligned action.

The VISIONS Approach to Networking

Let's apply the VISIONS framework to networking:

Vision: See networking as ecosystem building, not contact collecting

Interests: Lead with genuine curiosity about shared fascinations

Story: Share vulnerably to create real connection points

Insights: Offer value through unique perspectives

Outcomes: Focus on transformation, not transaction

Negatives: Polarize to attract the right people and repel the wrong ones

Solutions: Create win-win-win scenarios (you, them, the world)

This isn't just theory. Let me show you how it works in practice.

The Comment Section Cultivation Method

Most people treat comments like drive-by compliments. "Great post!" "So true!" "Thanks for sharing!"

This is networking theater—performing connection without creating it.

Instead, I practice what I call Comment Section Cultivation:

1. Read deeply - Actually digest the content, don't skim

2. Respond thoughtfully - Add a dimension they didn't explore

3. Share vulnerably - Relate it to your experience

4. Ask genuinely - Show real curiosity about their process

5. Give freely - Offer insights without expecting anything back

Example: Instead of "Great thread on productivity!" try "Your point about energy management over time management shifted something for me. I've been forcing 12-hour days, but my best work happens in 2-hour flow states. How did you discover your optimal rhythm?"

See the difference? One is a transaction. The other is a transformation.

The DM Script That Isn't a Script

Here's the DM approach I use that has led to real relationships and $1000+ monthly clients:

Instead of: "Hey! I help creators optimize their content strategy. Interested in a free consultation?"

Try: "Your recent piece on [specific topic] reminded me of [specific philosopher/concept/experience]. I've been exploring how [related insight] applies to [their specialty]. Have you noticed [specific pattern]?"

Then—and this is crucial—actually care about their response.

The magic isn't in the message. It's in the genuine intention behind it. People can smell agenda from a mile away, but they're starved for authentic interest.

The Anti-Networking Strategy

Sometimes the best networking strategy is to stop networking.

When I focused on creating value through:

• Daily writing that expresses my truth

• Systems that genuinely help people

• Vulnerability about my journey

• Philosophical depth in business content

My network grew faster than when I was "trying" to network.

Why? Because creation is the highest form of attraction.

When you create from alignment, you become a magnet for aligned connections. Your content becomes a beacon that says "if this resonates, we're probably kindred spirits."

The Qualification Paradox

Here's what nobody tells you about high-level networking: The more you qualify people OUT, the more the right people lean IN.

My qualification questions aren't designed to impress. They're designed to polarize:

• "What values are you unwilling to sacrifice for success?"

• "How does your business serve your spiritual evolution?"

• "What would you create if money wasn't the goal?"

These questions repel the transactional networkers and magnetize the transformational ones.

Building Bridge Consciousness

Aligned networking isn't about climbing ladders. It's about building bridges.

Bridges between:

• Different dimensions of expertise

• Seemingly unrelated fields

• People who should know each other

• Ideas that want to merge

When you see yourself as a bridge-builder rather than a ladder-climber, networking becomes an act of service.

Example: I connected a breathwork facilitator with a tech entrepreneur. Not for commission or credit, but because I could see how their work wanted to dance together. Six months later, they launched an app that's helping thousands regulate their nervous systems.

That's aligned networking—creating value ripples that extend beyond any individual transaction.

The 10-Hour Network Effect

The beautiful thing about aligned networking? It doesn't require 40 hours of schmoozing per week.

The 10-Hour Vortex Funnel naturally creates networking opportunities through:

• Content that attracts resonant beings

• DM scripts that create real dialogue

• Questionnaires that qualify aligned connections

• Systems that nurture relationships automatically

You spend 1 hour per day creating value, and your network grows while you sleep. Not through automation, but through attraction.

Your Aligned Network Assignment

This week, try three experiments:

1. Comment deeply on 5 posts that genuinely move you. No agenda, just appreciation and insight.

2. DM authentically to 3 people whose work fascinates you. Ask about their process, not their services.

3. Create vulnerably - Share one piece of content that scares you with its honesty. Watch who it attracts.

Notice the quality of connections that emerge. Feel the difference between networking and net-working—weaving webs of authentic relationship.

The Network as Nervous System

Stop thinking of your network as a Rolodex. Start thinking of it as a nervous system—a living web of connections that carries signals, creates patterns, and generates emergence.

In this system:

• Every authentic connection strengthens the whole

• Information flows naturally to where it's needed

• Opportunities arise from organic interaction

• Value multiplies through genuine exchange

This is how we transcend the gross networking game and create something beautiful—a true economy of connection.

Ready to build a network that nourishes rather than drains you?

Discover the 10-Hour Vortex Funnel →

Until next dimension, Eric Viviers

P.S. Next week, we're diving into Clean Copy—how to write words that land like lightning without manipulation or sleaze. Because the world has enough copywriters. What it needs are truth-writers.

Remember: You're not networking. You're discovering the constellation you're already part of.